Wednesday, May 7, 2008

Questions on dirty laundry...

Ok... second blog for the night... I've just been thinking....

Exactly WHAT is one supposed to write in a public blog? There are so many things that run through my head - and through my life - on a daily basis, that I wonder, what EXACTLY is appropriate to write about here in the blogosphere?

Do I write about troubles raising my child? Or teaching in children's church?

Do I discuss deep conversations with my husband or personal revelations from the Lord?

Do I talk about medical stuff? In how much detail?

PMS? Poopy diapers? Bad dreams?

This is the reason I ask. And this. And this.

I have been reading these blogger-gals for a very short time, and already they have caused me to laugh out loud, hold back tears, and nod in complete understanding. Their entries have changed my viewpoints in a lot of areas, and solidified my decisions in other areas.

They are so honest with themselves and with the world (via the wide web).

This honesty begs the question: how much is too much in an open blog?

Because I have also read other blogs: blogs where houses are always clean and meals are always on the table by 6pm. In these blogs, children are "precious" and never disobedient. These women never have a hair out of place or a (gasp!) a zit. Their marriages are little contracts from Heaven where everyone always agrees and no one ever argues. And don't get me STARTED on their *ahem* private relations!

I enjoy reading those blogs... for about 2.7 days. Then I'm done. Because it just doesn't seem legit to me. NO ONE's life can be THAT perfect. Am I right?

But I LOVE reading the blogs of women who are REAL. The ones who know that life isn't perfect - and that sometimes it's even hard - but they're doing their best and trusting their Maker to guide them. THESE are the women who are close to my heart... even if they are on the other side of the country.

Still, I am left with my original question: how much is too much?

Because I want to tell you about the one random time that my 18-month-old pooped in the potty...

I want to tell you about the first time I ever baked (read: hardened like a baseballs) homemade biscuits...

I want to tell you about the journey of discoveries I have made in my relationship with my hubby during our first four years of marriage...

I want to tell you about my last doctor's visit and about the journey I am embarking upon to find the answers...

I want to tell you how the Lord is walking me through this life as a mom, a wife, a pastor, a student, and a patient...

I want to tell you this stuff...

But how much is too much? At what point does it become too personal? When does it stop looking like a life, and start looking like dirty laundry?

I don't want to be all daisies and sunshine... but I don't want to use this blog as a dump for all my garbage either...

So, for any and all of you "experienced" bloggers out there, as well as any (of my 4) readers... I'm truly interested.. . where is the line? What do you want to hear about? How much is too much?

What do YOU think?

2 comments:

Amy said...

The best way to get lots of comments is to ask bloggers for advice. This is a great first step. :)

There are two people I always picture reading my blog: My Mom who loves me and certain un-named person who thinks I am a pious know-it-all-jerk. I know they both read my blog and I do my level best to never let either one of them down.

Sometimes our misery is our ministry and we do others a great service to share what we have come through.

There has to be a balance. Unless you're Job, I know it's not all bad. And even if you are Job, I know sometimes it is daisies and sunshine.

You are a really good writer, I am certain it is something that you will smooth out in time. I'm no expert, but I have been at it for awhile. Feel free to e-mail me anytime you have a blogging and/or apron question. ;)

Debbie C. said...

I think it's just what you feel comfortable sharing. I don't share "everything" but do share some of the more emotional moments in my life. I think you do a great job and really have a nice knack for creativity in your writing. It's not really like a journal for me, that is alot more intimate, but I do like to share what the Lord is doing in my life and in the lives of family members and at church, etc... I also like to share "quippy" kinds of things and trivia. It kind of depends on the mood I'm in.
Whatever, you are a great writer and I love reading your blog.

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